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Sunday, 5 June 2011

Women's rights against Obedient Wives Club

I want to talk about the recent issues that are all over the news.
I don't understand why women/wives are blamed for the adultery and betrayal done by their husbands and men in general. Raping cases for example, the fault is always on women instead of the rapper(men). Why comment about how we dress,act and etc. for the crime made by men? To add on, still advise women how to dress and how not to attract attention? The criminal would not care what we wear, they just want to commit the crime, do you get this? Even a 80 year old grandmother was raped so what more to say 18 year old teenager? So this has nothing to do with age or what we wear or how we look.  This is a discrimination and total unfairness on women.

This is the news excerpt:

Obedient Wives Club to offer sex lessons

RAWANG: Sex lessons to help wives “serve their husbands better than a first-class prostitute” will be among the classes provided by the Obedient Wives Club (OWC) to help promote harmonious marriages and counter social ills.
Its vice-president Dr Rohaya Mohamad said it was time sexual prowess took a front seat in marriage, beyond that of the traditional “good mother or good cook” roles.
“A good or religious wife should also be good in bed,” she told reporters after the launch of the club's Malaysian chapter at a golf club here yesterday.
She said a husband who was kept happy in the bedroom would have no reason to stray, seek out prostitutes or indulge in other social vices.
“The family institution is protected and we can curb social ills like prostitution, domestic violence, human trafficking and abandoned babies,” she said, adding that she believed these problems stemmed from unfulfilled sexual needs at home.
Dr Rohaya, who previously served 15 years as a doctor in the Health Ministry, said the club would also offer counselling and lecture sessions for wives, husbands or couples.
She said the Malaysian chapter had around 800 members while its chapter in Jordan had 200, adding that another in Indonesia was set to be launched on June 19 in Jakarta.
Asked whether wives should remain obedient if their husbands still abused or cheated on them despite being “kept happy” in the bedroom, Dr Rohaya said everyone was subject to God's rule.
“God has His ways and is fair to all. A husband is also subject to God's rule, meaning he can go to hell, too. But a woman must be a good wife to the end,” she said, adding that according to Islam, women should pray, fast during Ramadan, protect their chastity and obey their husbands if they wanted to enter heaven.
Dr Rohaya said the club was undaunted by public criticism, adding that she believed this was a “successful formula” to happy marriages.
OWC and the Polygamy Club were formed by Global Ikhwan Sdn Bhd, an organisation founded by former members of the banned Al-Arqam Islamic group.
A mass wedding reception for eight couples was also held during the launch.
Now, what do we have here? Do you think women are sex objects? Wives are categorized to be at the same level as first class prostitutes? Wow! What kind of title is that?!! Do you not know that men chose prostitutes so that they do not have to take responsibility? Are you asking husbands to stop taking responsibility of their wives and start paying them?

Another issue is about the obedience of wives? So she should shut up and ignore whatever happened to her done by her husband just for the sake of maintaining harmonious wedding? Do you seriously think that wives can keep their husbands from straying if they are obedient? If a man decides to cheat and betrays his wives/girlfriend then the whole action should be blamed solely on him. Training should be provided to husbands and men to prevent them from cheating. Not blaming on women for actions they cannot prevent at all because the control is not even from them in the first place.  

What I do know about marriage is that 2 person come together united as one because they love each other so much and willing to be loyal and care for each other for the rest of their lives. Wake up! Vice-president Dr Rohaya Mohamad: Are you blind? Are you ignorant of the whole issue caused? It's men that you should be training to avoid them straying from marriage not training women and expect change.
Even you cannot decide the outcome of the training, so why bother? As a doctor, don't you learn anything about psychology? 

I feel this is a discrimination openly practice! Think about it. 

Whatever I commented is based on my sole opinion alone and no harm intended. 

Anyway, if you are interested to fight for the cause, you can join here.



  1. Hi there Sherri! :) It is a good thing that you are aware of such club in Malaysia. This is definitely not acceptable and I'm glad you blogged about it. However is it OK if you can put a link to join the group so that your readers are able to engage with us in the facebook page? Thank you very mucH! :)

    Best regards,
    Matthew Ong

  2. Hi Sherri,

    I loved your post; you just put all your infuriated self out there in the blog and that honesty is refreshing. Not to mention, I thought your comments about women being blamed for things outside their control (i.e. infidelity by their husbands, domestic abuse) was spot on. Men should be brought up to respect women and their marriage vows the same as women; marriage is a partnership that both people need to commit to, and that includes their sex life.

    I wanted to share this video on the Obedient Wives Club with you and your readers. I think you’ll appreciate how it analyzes news coverage from different sources to show various perspectives on the club and their thoughts about obedience to men as a prevention tool for domestic abuse. I hope you’ll considering embedding the video in your post.

    Thanks for posting! It's great for people to talk about things like this club when the occasions arise.


  3. although I'm kinda agree with wat Dr R said "man kept happy in the bedroom would have no reason to stray, seek out prostitutes or indulge in other social vices" But this is definitely partially correct only.

    A man love to have a lovely wife that appreciates him and respect on both sides.

    Sex won't keep a relationship alive only add spice but understanding and appreciations does =)

  4. I agree with you Kally~ She is not thinking the complete picture.


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